Day 12_Framed

Glad to see you back!

Today we're leading you to ways you can turn around something that was really uncomfortable.

Has anyone ever accused you of something you didn't do?

That's yet another way to feel the weight of injustice. If so, it probably felt awful.

Can you relate?

Here's a visual of what it looks like to be poorly treated and come back from it in a great way. Take a look at a couple of scenes from the story of Joseph, the messed story we talked about in Day 3.

Let us know if you liked the clips when you've finished.

If you've experienced being lied about or falsely blamed, then describe the accusation, who made it, and what came of it?

If you're able to get a meeting with the people holding you responsible for something you didn't say or do, then here are a few tips:

*Be honest
*Sit up straight
*Don't fidget
*Look calm
*State the facts only
*Look the person in the eye
*Be humble - no attitude
*Ask for their opinion
*Ask what more you can offer so they'll believe you

How much do you think that this approach can help your situation?

The most important thing we can say here is to be honest.

If you're not able to meet, then imagine having a conversation about what happened.

What would you like to say?

There's another way for you to prepare for a meeting if you're able to get one.

Try role playing with a trusted friend, mentor or someone else who's on your side. It helps to role play in order to get over your nerves.

Will you try it?

Will you agree to the following:

*Don't gossip
*Don't post, text or communicate in any way
*Close your social media accounts if they're hurting you
*Find a person who will champion your cause
*Don't overreact
*Don't threaten anyone
*Don't seek revenge
*Don't talk to the accuser alone
*Remain true to yourself
*Pray for help
*Trust the help

This is going to be hard, but try as best as you can to forgive the accuser. Yes, it's a hard ask, but it's so you can move on and focus on your present and future opportunities.

It could go something like this:
I hope, (fill in their name), that you have the courage to speak the truth and to take back what you've said about me that was untrue.

I pray you let go of your attempt to hurt and humiliate me or to set me up in order to save yourself or someone else.

I hope circumstances arise that flesh out the truth to the right people at the right time.

I wish you courage regarding the opportunity you now have to apologize and move on just as I forgive you and will move on with my life because, in reality, you've taken nothing from me.

How do you feel now?