Day 5_Ask

Hello! Are you ready to dive into today's navigation?

Here goes!

On Day 4 (yesterday), we encouraged you to look for an opportunity to begin changing one filter on your list.

What was the filter you wanted to change and did you find an opportunity to start dealing with it?

How much more aware are you of things (like beliefs and filters) that get in the way of potentially tense conversations?

Have you noticed possible filters other people may have?

If so, what are they?

Is your mirror beginning to reflect anything differently? Take a look. What do you see that you didn't see before?

So....we've talked about the following Drama Busters:

1- Be honest. Keep the past the past as best you can.
2- Ears first. Mouth second. Listen twice as much as you speak.

How much have you applied these tips so far?

Drum roll please....

Drama Buster #3
Don't Assume. Ask.

Put yourself in the other person's place when the dust stirs. Give them the benefit of the doubt.

Did you realize that you can't wholeheartedly love another person until you learn to give them the benefit of the doubt in times of conflict or misunderstanding? It's because trust is absent. Trust is the glue that holds a friendship or relationship together.

It takes trust to give someone the benefit of the doubt. Benefit of the doubt means 'they just may be right and I'm going to be humble enough and respectful enough to go with it.' This, of course, only applies if the people involved are reasonably healthy emotionally.

What do you think about all that?

Let's make it real.

Try this. When a disagreement arises, ask the other person involved what they think that you're thinking about them?

Or you could tell them you don't understand what they're saying. Please explain? That question can't help but shut down cold an escalating war of words.

It makes both of you stop and consider that one or both of you just may be wrong in your assumptions. Maybe a filter is off and a trigger was pushed. The point is not to assume. Ask.

Head to the video icon for a funny look at 'assume'. Let us know what you thought when you've finished.

This isn't about learning anything new. It's about unlearning what isn't helping.

You got this.

We hope you post and let us know if we can offer further suggestions. You could also tap your Campfire, Campsite and/or Campground mates and let them in on your struggles. See if they have tips you could use.